The Big One

     "The very best place to start," says Julie Andrews, "is right at the beginning." Taking a tip from her that is exactly what I'll do. My name is Amanda. I am 23 years old and I am a college graduate. I graduated from SUNY Fredonia in 2011 with a degree in English literature and writing. I work for insurance company answer phones by saying "Thank you for calling Customer Service. This is Amanda, how can I help you?". I am also in a long distance relationship. In May 2011 I met Liam and we hit it off right away. Certain circumstances prohibited us from dating and so we remained good friends. The only thing is Liam lives in England and I live in the United States, hanging out is kind of hard. In November 2011, my best friend Erica and I went to England to meet Liam in person. Once I saw him in person I knew my feelings were more than that of a friend nature. When I got home my circumstance ended and Liam and I started dating February 9th 2012. On May 28th 2012 Liam proposed to me on the beach in Palma de Mallorca. We are planning a wedding for June 1st 2013!

    That's our story in a nutshell without all the drama. Liam and I have been through a lot and now we're ready to spend our lives together. There is just one little thing in the way.

This:

The Atlantic Ocean. Making three thousand miles of distance between us. Forcing us to travel a 16 hour flight where I spend most of it hyperventilating until we land, not because I hate flying but because I am SUPER impatient. I want everything yesterday and it was one of my biggest flaws. This flaw makes a long distance relationship VERY difficult, more so than need be. Throughout my life I have been in other long distance relationship though obviously this one is different and more meaningful. Therefore I am more impatient than ever to end this long distance and be with Liam everyday! 

I want to go from this:

To This:

For people who have stumbled upon/been nagged by me to read this I want this blog to offer up some guidance or some comfort to others dealing with the same thing I am. I want to comfort you in that fact that you're not alone and there are others out there that know how you feel. I also want to guide you in how you can make long distance work, it doesn't have to seem like a chore and it doesn't have make you want to eat a whole tube of ice cream alone. It takes two people willing to work for a common goal that makes long distance relationships work. And long distance relationships CAN work,  don't let anyone tell you otherwise.


Although I want to make something clear, I'm talking LONG distance relationships. 


Like this:

If you do not have to FLY to get to your significant other or drive more than an hour or two, I can't give you my sympathy, while I don't deny that you have a longer distance relationship than others, this is still convenient even if it doesn't feel like it. You still have the ability to visit them every other weekend or everyday, all you have to do is put in more effort in than others to see them. My situations and others have to wait MONTHS to see our partners. We have to pay hundreds of dollars for airline tickets to see our loved ones. Then when we are with them we only have a couple of days to spend with them and then we have to part again for months. I'm not trying to down play your relationship, I just wouldn't call it a long distance one, maybe we can call it a short long distance relationship. Honestly, I would kill to be an hour away from Liam, it would be so much easier than this. Even though this is hard, I wouldn't change a thing about it. I love Liam and we're going to be a stronger marred couple because of this. He is worth it. 

I am going to post every Friday and I hope to see you all reading. 

Love, Peace and Chicken Grease, 

Amanda